The "R" Word

Yep, here it is... the dreaded relationship post. We all say that we're not gonna turn our blogs into some sappy online dating show, but this is whats on my mind and since this is my blog, imma write about it! lol.

Anyway, I was watching 'the Parkers', (yes Sherrell, I was watching the Parkers, but at least it wasn't on BET) anyhoo, we've all watched as Nikki Parker pursues her love interest "the professor". Despite the numerous times he's dodged, dissed, and dismissed her attempts to get his attention, she never gives ups (well, until that last season) Her family and friends would always laugh at her and tell her to give up, he don't want you, and to go find somebody else, but she wouldn't listen. And I know a couple of times some of us have probably yelled at the screen, like "honey, let it go"... But yet how many times have we been in the same situation as Nikki? How many times have we been in a relationship and our significant other just wasn't "that into it" as we were. But yet we insist on "making it work". Or how many of us have had (or still have) these "school girl" crushes on people (and yes, guys can have school girl crushes too!), yet these people don't devote the same energy into us as we to them, and yet we steady pursue them. We've all been guilty of this at some point, myself included! What is it that makes us desire these people so much? For those that have crushes, is it that we see them and think, "that's what I want in a partner", just to get with them and find out it wasn't "the match made in heaven" that you dreamed it to be (for those that actually get to the relationship status) and for those that don't, how do we know that it's really them we want, and not some fantasy of them that we've made up in our mind of what being with them would be like. What do you do once they come around and you've got them and decide it wasn't what you wanted. Do you let them go? And waste all the time and energy you spent trying to get where you are? Do you stay against your will or against what you know is right also because you spent so much energy getting there?

So I leave the blog reading community with some questions...
*We're encourage to set goals and have dreams, but is this really one of those type dreams?
*Is it healthy to put so many emotions and feelings into someone that may or may not know how we feel about them?
*Should we tell our crushes/partners how we feel, or just let the situation work out naturally?
*Do you have any related stories, questions, comments about dealing with crushes or one-sided relationships?

(For those of you that aren't as "quick" as others, this is my attempt at getting you to actually leave feedback and respond to the post, not just read it.)

Disclaimer: (It's sad I have to have a disclaimer, but oh well) This post was not directed to or in reflect of anyone in particular,... just a random, hypothetical situation! :)

Why...

Wow... it's been a long time since I've wrote anything up here. Let's see what random blog topic I can talk about today.

Hmmm... Well I do have some questions that I would like answered (and of course they involve the most random bunch of people I've ever met... my co-workers!!!) Anyway...

-Guys, why would you keep making appointments at a certain doctor's office, just so you can holla at a girl that works there! And to make it so bad, she works in the lab! (and no i'm not referring to myself). Don't you know that since she works in the LAB, and has to draw your blood for your LAB TESTS, that she's gonna find out WHY you were at the doctor. So what's my point? Why you gonna come in and get what I like to call a "STD panel" (HIV, Hepatitis, Syphillis, etc tests) like every other week! I mean, I understand the first one, your just being concerned, but dang, twice a month is a little much don't you think?! I mean, what signals are you giving out to the girl you trying to talk to? I just want to know... Why?

-As if the last questions wasn't bad enough, why come my co-worker had the nerve to ask him why he didnt tell her he was coming in to the doctor's again today when he called her that morning at 6am. (Umm... 6am??) And she prancing around laughing and thinking it's "cute" that he keeps coming in to "see her". What in the world? Hello? Are you the least bit concerned that he's coming in every two weeks for a different STD test? Are you that much starved for attention? Please somebody tell me... Why?

-You know how there's always that one person at work that moans, groans, and complains about everything that happens, doesnt happen, or whatever. And they always talking about how they hate it there? Like my question to them? Why don't you just stop talking about it and quit?! Leave! Transfer! Like, if you hate your job and everybody there so much, to the point where its making you "sick", then honey, why don't you just leave? Why?

Whew... okay, i'm done. I just don't understand why some people do the things they do, but maybe its just not for me to understand. If anybody can help answer some of these questions, please feel free and feel free to post your own "Why?" questions in the comments section. Maybe somebody out there can explain this to me.